Neurodiverse Couples Counselling

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Being in a neurodiverse relationship—where one or both partners are autistic, ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent—can often feel like navigating the world in two different languages. At first, those differences can spark real curiosity and connection. One partner’s honesty might feel clear and grounding; the other’s emotional attunement might bring a sense of comfort or insight. But as the relationship deepens, the very differences that once felt exciting or refreshing can become sources of tension—especially when each partner is left trying to interpret the other without a shared framework for understanding.

Standard couples therapy often assumes a common set of social norms, emotional responses, and communication styles—assumptions that can miss the mark in neurodiverse relationships. Without recognising these differences, therapy can unintentionally reinforce misunderstanding or leave one or both partners feeling pathologised or unheard.

In our work together, I offer a neuro-affirming approach that centres your unique relationship—without trying to fit it into a one-size-fits-all model. Rather than only focusing on what’s “lacking,” we will also explore how each of you experiences connection, conflict, and communication in ways that reflect your own neurotype and life experience.

Together, we may explore:  

– How to communicate clearly when you process and express emotions differently  

– What helps each partner feel safe, seen, and supported—especially in times of stress  

– Navigating sensory needs and creating shared routines that actually work for both of you  

– Understanding the role of executive functioning, pacing, and energy regulation in your relationship  

– Repairing repeated misunderstandings or stuck patterns without blame  

– Redefining intimacy and connection in ways that feel authentic and sustainable  

This is a space where difference isn’t something to “fix”—it’s something to understand, respect, and work *with*. Therapy can help you translate each other’s perspectives, meet in the middle more often, and build a relationship that honours both of your ways of being.